My friends get all the attention from guys
Dear Therapist,. Please bear with me as I try to give some context for what is going to sound very unpleasant. I am a reasonably attractive woman in her early 30s. I have a long-term, doting partner and we are extremely happy in our relationship.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: How to Become Popular OVERNIGHT
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Why do people automatically think my friend is "friendlier" and I'm unfriendly. She is much more timid. She looks like a deer caught in headlights and the guys who come up to her are like predators.
She let's guys slap her butt and pull her around and then asks me to "save" her. Or she'll get really upset that some guy just slapped her on the butt but is afraid to speak up about it. Honestly, it kind of creeps me out that guys go for the girl that looks like they could trick into bed with them.
Good responses--gives me things to think about. She allows guys to disrespect her by slapping her butt, grabbing her, grinding on her, puling her around and she's too timid to say anything. Good responses. If having high standards amounts to being a "snobbish stuck up girl" then so be it. I'll have to accept that not as many guys will approach me because I'm not willing to do what my friend does.
She's even asked me to save her from guys because she's too scared to say anything and I have to pull her away and look like the bad one. I'm not willing to do what she does. Oopsies, I apparently don't know how to use the internet and accidentally posted twice. We went with other friends and they saw her and they were all like 'is she ok? I do have high standards, but I like it that way : Good luck. When I go out with my friend, all these guys flock to her.
We're both Asian but and this will sound arrogant, but I'm really not I really believe I am much more attractive than her. She is cute but not gorgeous but is really sweet and looks like your stereotypical "innocent" mail order bride Asian girl who will never talk back and believe everything you say and not turn you down.
My guy friend said she has "easy target" written all over her. But guys really do flock to her and don't really approach me. The ones that do approach me are extremely pompous and full of themselves and become even more so when they find out I'm a successful attorney.
I am pickier and have low tolerance for arrogance and b. To tell you the truth, she really never turns down guys even if she doesn't think they are attractive. She will talk to any guy for min just to be polite. Is this really what guys do? If there are two girls, one which may be more attractive than the second but the second still cute , will they really only talk to the second one just because she looks innocent and easy?
But it's not that they look at me and her and then decide to approach her, sometimes they just make a B line to her.
Maybe they can pick up her vibe of being an easy target and that catches their attention? I'm so confused Share Facebook. My friend gets all the attention at clubs. Add Opinion. MystiKaL Xper 6. If I have to be honest you sound like an unapproachable type of girl, the type of girl to give blank stares to guys who don't interest you, the type who turns her head when she's not interested.
I'm sorry if that's not really you but this is how you may be projecting yourself. Your friend sounds like the bubbly type of girl, the type who has a smile on her face quite often, the type who will chat to anyone and not look down on guys irrespective on how they look.
You see the difference in you 2, although you may be a lovely girl deep down you sound like the snobbish stuck up girl, your friend sounds like the charming funny girl. Guys like warmth in their girls and would prefer to approach the cute funnier girl.
That's why you have have snobbish guys approach you, the type who generally lack emotion themselves. Now what I advise is that you start to evaluate your outlook and see where you can make changes so that you project a more postive image towards guys.
Now I'm not saying you should chat to every single guy who approaches you. What I'm saying is if a guy does not interest you, have a smile on your face, sound friendly and slowly drift away from him. Have a smile on your face, give lots of eye contact to guys you are attracted to, basically give out vibes that you ain't an unapproachable type of girl.
I'm pretty sure if you start to make positive changes that surround your personality, you will have more guys approaching and chatting to you. Friendliness is a major turn on to guys. An upbeat happy girl is fun to be around. Girls think guys always go for the better looking girl. What they don't reaise is if the girl who isn't as attractive seems friendlier and flirtier guys will go for the less attractive girl.
At a coffee shop I go to there is agirl who is our waitress. She always smiles and laughs and even does a little dance thing. But we give this girl all the attention. We go to the coffee shop only when she works there. She says we are her favorite costumers. Guys like to be around friendly women.
More guys will approach you. The amount of money you make or job status is not as important as it used to be. What is important is being happy. If you are happy guys will want to be around you.
Putting it together that you are a successful attorney, and that you said you feel you are more attractive than your friend and the way you describe her I do have the feeling that your vibe carries all the confidence with it, which guys can find intimidating. From how your friend seems, especially that she's so friendly she will talk to someone for awhile even if not interested, Id say she just seems she gives off the vibe that she's friendly and approachable.
Also, if you're upset cause she's getting attention and you're not, then that's going to come out in your vibe too There's nothing wrong with being confident Id totally drop being jealous of the attention your friend gets though. Concentrate on giving off an approachable vibe Its not about stealing attention from her, especially not if its a guy she seems genuinely interested in, or about competition for who gets the most attentions.. But your reaction can make or break your approachability factor Do not resent your friend.
This is a great opportunity to watch and learn from her! Not to say you need to be like her, but there are certain things that guys look for aside from looks. I believe that all humans are made with very primal and intuitive instincts. When people go out for fun, they are looking for fun people to have a good time with. Men and women can spot confidence, fun-loving attitudes in the other sex from a mile away just by watching someone's body language.
When she goes in there, she's ready for fun and the whole room can tell. When you go in you have a guard up because you're thinking in your head "here's another night with this bitch - whom I love dearly, by the way!
If you want to take a little more limelight for yourself you need to smile more than her, dance more and better than her, talk to people for a little longer than she does and concentrate on nothing but having a good time while doing it! If that sounds like a difficult task, you probably won't be able to do it. Once you stop caring is when the men come flocking, believe me.
Give it a try. FlgirlAna Xper 5. No guy likes a girl that makes them feel less of themself guys like girls that boost them up a little bit but can bring them right back down. Your friend she probably is well loose. I had a girlfriend who when we went out it seemed like guys flocked to her too come to find out she was intiating the conversations the whole time and being very provocative emmmhmmm lol so I was like well she maybe getting all the guys now but lets see who can keep one.
Yeah defiantely me! AND nothing attracts more men then the scent that a girl might be taken a competition wow they love it!
Sign Up Now! Sort Girls First Guys First. You answered your own questions.. YOU: -Don't tell the guys that you are an attorney, unless he is one himself or a doctor.
Men sometimes can feel less when their income doesn't match. Guys look for the easiest way in possible. Because when you send them back, the other guys feel the pain too so only arrogant guys feel to sure of themselves that they are the one to make the kill.
So they come on a little too strong so that is a turn off. Not her. Guys love girls who can laugh at their jokes, doesn't matter what their income or upbringing. It's an ego thing. You got to feed it.
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I invited him to the birthday party I threw for my brother, and I also invited my best friend. Bestie had never met Crush before, but she knew of my crush. They spent the evening together, flirting and getting more touchy-feely the more they drank. She was grinding on him by the end of the night.
‘I Feel Bad Because My Friends Aren’t Attractive!’
None of that makes us toxic. It makes us human. We mess things up, we grow and we learn. Toxic people are different. They never learn. Toxic behaviour is a habitual way of responding to the world and the people in it. Toxic people are smart but they have the emotional intelligence of a pen lid.
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When you go out with the friend in question, you are probably holding all kinds of destructive beliefs in your head. As you take on these negative beliefs, you will start acting in ways that are more unattractive to men. You will act more dismissive and closed towards them, be less fun and flirtatious, appear less confident. Building sexual tension — e. Teasing — If he buys an alcopop for example, tease him a bit and tell him he might want to try a beer next time.
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Why does my friend get all the damn attention when we go out to parties and stuff?
I grew up with five sisters, one of whom, Maureen, was always the one that all the guys fancied. But I was just dead proud of her and I still am. By Coleen Nolan.
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My friend gets all the attention - should I stop hanging out with her?
Every time I go to a party she always there with me, and she always has ALL the guys drooling after her No matter if there's 50 girls in the room that are WAY prettier than her, every guy is always asking her out to dance and wanting to hookup with her. And you say it's her personality, but she's a slut I'm not trying to be mean, she sleeps with everything. And every party I go to I just stand there feeling useless. I mean, I know how to have fun I like to dance and just have a good time.
How do you know if you have a toxic friendship? It can be really difficult— because we often don't want to see it. As much as people talk about difficult relationships where we don't want to see how bad things have gotten, the truth is that the very same holds true for friendships. We often stay in bad friendships for the same reasons we stay in bad romantic relationships.
I Can’t Attract Men Like My Friend – Why Not?
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‘I Feel Bad Because My Friends Aren’t Attractive!’
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